Sex for the first time

The first sexual experience is firmly imprinted in the minds of all persons, regardless of his wishes. Especially important is it for women as being more receptive and emotional. Unsuccessful first experience very often becomes the cause of female frigidity, its indifference to sex, inability to experience orgasm, sexual disharmony and its negative attitude towards men in general.

And she will be lucky if its first partner will be a man knowledgeable, experienced, discreet and cautious. Loving, of course. Because all its subsequent connection, it will not help to pass through the impression and feeling its very first night. What are they? Pleasant, not at all or terrible? In large measure this depends on her ...

The first time, usually painful and frightening, and unpleasant. And, if the partner is rude and inconsiderate, and even bitter. And do not believe their "experienced" minor girlfriend, who first ascended to heaven and experienced heavenly delight. This is a lie! It is even physiologically impossible, because the traumatic (even if the hymen is elastic, not break, and stretchy natural barrier). Even if the first man experienced, and attentive, and loving, it is unlikely she will be able to experience orgasm. It is rather an exceptional case than the rule.

And if proximity is of the same age, the same young and inexperienced, as it is, some not too pleasant, and even curious moments, alas, can not be avoided. But everything is reparable, if young people go to it for love, emotional attachment, knowingly and voluntarily. And most importantly balanced. And if it happens otherwise? Incidentally, out of stupidity, because of fear ...

From this absurd and painful experience she often makes the impression of experiencing frustration and aversion to sex sometimes for many years. Again, many women's sex problems are connected with the first failed sexual experience.

Why are girls still go to it

1. Due to differences in motivations and levels of sexual development guys and girls in their teens and early adolescence. It relates to how they look at the issues of love and friendship. The girl aged 14 - 18 years interested in the question of romantic love, platonic love relationships, gentle friendship. They love to read romance novels and watch melodramas and imagined relations between men and women in beautiful and romantic spirit of mutual sympathy, benevolence, respect and tenderness. They are in our dreams are very far from the animal instincts and impulses of the flesh, which is still dormant in them. Manifestation of activity on the part of young men frightens them, repels, confusing and even frustrating. Sexuality wake them much later. Boys also about 17 - 24 years, first unconsciously, and then all definitely have quite specific personal desire for closeness with the girl. They want sex. And not matured yet to the high spiritual relationship with the woman. She will have them later in adulthood. And while their lead with a tremendous shock to the body. The girls, not realizing this, gives his desires, taking them for their love of high spiritual order. Very often invented relationship deducted from romance novels and podsmotreny in the movies seem to be love, and she decided at the first attempt. Some girls do not realize that they are playing with fire, revealing the seductive part of its shape, legs, chest. They provoke the boys their clothes, behavior, like allowing them a wish. Most guys are very hard to resist this. So there are random and early communication, due to a desire to unbearable intimacy. Unfortunately, they are far from true love and intimacy, but inexperienced young people are perceived this way.

2. The girl behind the requests, desires and threats because of the fear of rejection, ridicule be worse than the other, differ from the collectively formed the image of "his girls", who dominates her social peers. That is going to take this step out of fear. But not for love. Sometimes it happens by accident in a state of uncontrolled and unconscious drive under the influence of alcohol. In such cases, the girl is not immune from anything. Especially if it is not too picky acquaintances, and among her entourage have guys with questionable reputations. To anything good this experience does not lead, as a rule. And great love, and especially marriage, what each secret dreams, here and does not smell.

3. Some modern girls have a sexual relationship as outrageous, in retaliation, in order to annoy their parents, in order to pass for peer advanced, for the sake of interest, to look older, more attractive in the eyes of the opposite sex. Most of these eksperimentatorsh grow cynical and indifferent to the normal human women. They reduce any gender relations to the bed, they thrive in the art of bodily pleasures. But few of them able to really relax during sex. Because promiscuous and experiments, alas, does not enhance their femininity, and destroy him, emptying their souls, which loses the ability to complicity, empathy, and a thin inner feelings of another person. I do not believe that the best wife went to prostitutes. For the simple reason that the best wife - is, above all, a person close. Spiritually close. You can learn relaxation techniques with thousands of bed, learn to play thousands of sexual games, but never learn to be a woman, soft, kind and tolerant to one single person who becomes your husband.

When a woman sells her body for many, whether for the sake of experiment and my own pleasure or for money, she unlearns feel selfless love. She loses herself as a woman, with each new partner without acquiring and losing part of his soul. Because that was the way her body, it can not exist apart from the mind and heart. Because sexual activity is included her entire body. When it comes to sex, she gets a man's strength and energy of the solid plan, but gave part of his inner being.

When this happens, and happens naked sex, women in this "woman" are no longer or not yet.

I admit that this is merely a subjective opinion of the author, and that modern life is more loyal to the issues of sex. But no one can convince me that by engaging in a sexual relationship with a man, woman never thinks about love, even for a moment, though out of the corner of his consciousness, and concerned only with the obvious question sexual release, or opportunity to practice in bed. Show me the woman I want to look into her eyes!

I think for every girl's question, the first night - one of the most important questions of life. In spite of everything. Because it creates all of her future life with men, and is directly related to her happiness. Therefore, it should treat it as possible carefully and responsibly.

I think in any case, it should not:

• Hurry up.

• Striving to be like everyone else. Adjusting to the standards and requirements of fashion (which may be a fashion, if we are talking about your own life, which is given to you only once, and to correct, amend and alter anything in it already will never have!).

• AFRAID be rejected (love, real love, if it has a place to be, do not check such dubious means).

• attending this irresponsible, careless, thoughtless, without considering possible consequences.

• DO IT FOR EXPERIMENTS WITH dubious character. And if you dare to know everything in this life, choose a partner without aggravating circumstances.

• do so on the Staircase in the basement, through the gateway, etc. There is a risk that you will not like this is extremely, and turn away from it all.

• GO FOR IT, IF YOU ARE NOT SURE, that you love this man. Try to find out whether you love or "just because" some other way. You'll see, soon it will become clear to you and without sex.

• Binds man So, if you want a man, not a male. There is a risk that, to satisfy his desire, he just throws you. Man, that a woman need only this tie is impossible, because sooner or later, on his way to meet other, more attractive female, and draw it into the new network.

• use sex as a provocation and blackmail. Unless you do not Mata Hari, it is unlikely to make you happy. And for what it was all over, remember ...

I think that the feeling of happiness for women as for men, not due to sexual release, but with the concepts of higher and subtle plan. Spiritual closeness, love, respect, human warmth. And, of course, harmonious, deep and comprehensive physical contact, which can not happen in a hurry, in the hallway, as horrible and with just anyone ... So why are you your first most important experience of life rush and lets things slide? To the rest of his life he stood over you like Damocles' sword of your women unhappy? You do not want to! So do not rush to become a woman, the more so with a sense and knowledge of their femininity is related only formally ...